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[AJM]

Hi Crazy. Just dropping in. Looks like you're right where you were last time. I was hoping for change

To me, at this point, if M doesn't have the meaning (whatever your definition is) behind it, then it's just a piece of paper, one way or the other. The thing is, it's not like I'm looking forward to meeting up with someone else. I think I've just been too disillusioned to give it a go again. And I'm not looking to have more kids

I have heard those words before. Oddly, she remarried within months. I stopped guessing at the future, and I think you may want to consider that approach. It might bite otherwise...

I knew there were problems then, the same problems we still have today, but I was foolish and believed H's promises to address them. It's actually one of the things that I find depressing about this board, is the way people respond to their S leaving and how bothered they are and how they address their 180's. My H's attention lasts about 2 days, and then he's right back to the way he was, primarily because I quit complaining. Squeaky wheel syndrome, ya know?

What? A marriage with problems??? Say it ain't so!?? I think you should really really consider not lashing out at those that value their spouse's and their marriages. At those that believe that marriage is more than a piece of paper. Best to use soft words as you have to eat them later, right?

I don't think I have it together as well as you might think. I just got tired of waiting and being disappointed, watching my life go by.

I don't think you have it all together. I never did from the time you started posting. I still don't think you have anything figured out. I'm shocked to see that you feel like you should have ended the marriage years ago. I'm shocked that you want to be left alone. You want to be alone. You want your H to divorce you, rather then you leaving. I'm shocked you stay married all these years. Such a saint for putting up with it, you are.

I'm not shocked. I'm being sarcastic. I don't think those years were as bad as you paint them. I do think you feel they are. On that point, we wholeheartedly agree about your situation.

I just got tired of waiting and being disappointed, watching my life go by

No you didn't. You're still doing it by your reckoning. You have changed nothing except your sleeping arrangements. I'm sure that'll continue until he leaves, because you don't have the fortitude to leave. You never did. Not from the beginning....


AJ