Thanks for the advice chatterbug. I should follow it up. I follow a couple of threads and do other sporadic reading, but don't do a lot of commenting. Can't hurt to focus outward, working on that in RL as well.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.