Mr. B. I understand. Actually 2 weeks which is like a breath of fresh air.

It sort of was all on her. I was ready and have been ready to work on our R for a very long time.

What I am saying is the last 2 weeks SHE has made a conscious effort. It almost appears she snapped out of a fog or if she was having some sort of EA it ended (another topic on this, do I just let this go. Just start fresh and/or startover)

Thx for advice on downsizing house. We are looking at a smaller house tonight that of course she is in love with