I feel we have taken a step back now. After a deep conversation a few nights ago (after I wrote the last post) she now is scared with a stranger moving in with her. She said that a month ago it seemed like a good idea but now that the time is coming closer she is getting scared at the thought of me moving in. She compared it to the high dive, from the ground it doesn't look like much but now that she's up there it is real.
She also feels that she has given all that she has in the last 10 years and she has nothing left to give. I think it's time for me to move to Denver to be closer to her, but keep my distance still. This is not going to be easy, and I feel like there is no way to avoid divorce. Any encouragement and advice at this point would be greatly appreciated.