All I am suggesting is that I think he needs to talk with a mental health professional or clergy. ASAP. I think you do as well and maybe one together to work through this. Get it sorted out first and foremost.
My only advice to you, is do not treat is as an affair instantly just because of the odd circumstances surrounding what happend. It may be he's lying to you on this and I'm wrong. Then in that case DB provides some great tools,
But DB is not appropriate in a situation where there was a criminal assault.
I understand the anger, and feel it's pretty normal. He may have made some mistakes that day, but that doesn't excuse what happened if she acted upon him without his consent. I'm sure he's also plenty mad at himself.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
