Nothing like a little shock to the system to let a guy know that he is NOWHERE CLOSE to being detached. My wife put a post on Facebook yesterday that had a few people wondering if she was going out on a date. Of course, this got back to me and my heart raced and anxiety set in, just like it was BD day all over again.
I did handle it considerably different than I would have a few months ago. I simply called her in a polite way and said, "any reason why people are calling me wondering if you're dating?" She replied in disbelief. After a short conversation she realized it was probably from her Facebook post where she said she had "plans" for tonight. It turns out, that she is meeting some friends for wine tasting and reviewing some glamour shot type pictures she had taken to boost her self esteem. I do believe her story. As much as I realize that people often lie during these situations, I have never known my wife to tell a single lie in 12 years.
Anyway, we had some light converstion and she expressed a little more about her poor self image. We also reiterated what we had discussed during our initial breakup, that neither of us would date or move forward without being honest and letting the other know. One thing bothered me. She literally said she thinks she looks fat. W is 5'8" and weighs maybe 130 pounds, if that. She is built like a gazelle. It really does make me sad that she has such low self image of herself. After we ended the call, I did something I probably shouldn't have done. I sent her a text saying, "I know you're looking in the mirror right now (she was getting ready for work). That girl looking back at you is not fat! She is the most beautiful girl that I know, and I am happy to call her my friend"....she sent me back a text right away saying "thank you, H. Have a good day"
Roller coaster GOING UP..haha.....I really need to focus on making detaching my number one objective. That is really holding me back more than anything.
