Patterns that Work: What is Happening When Things go Well?
1.I worked fulltime. *I felt better about myself professionally…not stressed out from being home all day(or watching kids)…people to talk with (not waiting for companionship from H)…had more patience w/others...felt like I contributed to the family. **had more $$ for things like manicures, highlights/haircuts
2.We had fun as a family *simple things; walking around the mall, playing with S, going out to dinner
3. H and I had a lot to talk about
4.We showed each other a lot of affection *made time every night to talk…did thoughtful things for each other
5. H helped out more around the house..wasn't always working
6. I helped him with projects…allowed for us to spend additional time together
7. Date Nights were scheduled
8. Sent cards, wrote notes, made lunches, brought each other coffee in the morning,
