You know the same could be said about you as well. Don't be so quick to judge other people. They are people who are hurting just the same as you. Makes you sound like a self-righteous @$$.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Yes I didn't mean to come across that way. I actually helped them with some of the readings and techniques we discussed here. I guess I meant when you think you have it bad someone else has it worst. The group is very good and it's what I need
I talked to my W today about attending EE workshop. At first she said "what kind of workshop is this if you can't find it local" I just responded that it is the best in the country and that they are not running local until 2014 and I didn't want to wait that long that I needed this workshop to help myself with communication.
This might be a strange question. But my W has still not approached me about working on our marriage. Her actions certainly have changed.
How do you progress. If MC counseling is not her thing how do we start to communicate more. Right now everything has been stable and fun at home. Do I just let things fall into place? I mean I am going to ACOA and flying to EE so I am doing my work (25 :-)
I mean now my W is talking about selling our home and downsizing into something more manageable. Our home has ALWAYS overwhelmed my W. I mean we still don't even sleep in same bedroom but downsize house and move without any forward progress on marriage? Seems off. This whole scene seems odd.
I guess I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop as 25 stated.
I feel like a puppy that was kicked by its owner one to many times. I absolutely LOVE how things are going, but I have fear as we build up trust
Things have only been going well for a week and you're wondering why W hasn't approached you about M?
DO NOT mention counseling. If she is talking about downsizing, then tell her that you would love to, HOWEVER, you don't plan to do so unless you get a better idea of where your R is heading. Then let her do the talking.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Mr. B. I understand. Actually 2 weeks which is like a breath of fresh air.
It sort of was all on her. I was ready and have been ready to work on our R for a very long time.
What I am saying is the last 2 weeks SHE has made a conscious effort. It almost appears she snapped out of a fog or if she was having some sort of EA it ended (another topic on this, do I just let this go. Just start fresh and/or startover)
Thx for advice on downsizing house. We are looking at a smaller house tonight that of course she is in love with
"What I am saying is the last 2 weeks SHE has made a conscious effort."
No I get that. But she hasn't even told you she wanted to R. That's what needs to happen.
She could just as easily go back to her old habits because she hasn't dealt with the root of the problem. Don't let your guard down. It's why many people here who think they were in Piecing get burned.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
