Next Step, Moving On

[dorightman]

I just have to say that I've been reading "Why Talking is Not Enough" by Susan Page and also "How One of You Can Bring The Two of You Together" and they are making a difference.

For the past 4 days I have been mostly focused on myself and the kids, I have kept a positive attitude, and I have not talked about the R with W.

Today before she left for work she said that whatever has come over me is great and affecting the whole family in a good way. I said thanks and told her I'm focused on myself and the kids and being positive. She said thats great, thats what I should be doing, and everyone feels more at ease now. I said it doesn't alter my goals. No comment.

For the past 5 months she's wanted me out of the house. I noticed that whenever we talked about the R, she always got angry and said I'm not honoring the separation.
Now, she's not mentioning it, as long as I keep mellow and detached from her.

I don't know if this will bring her back, but it certainly is helping in terms of getting along and living together separated in the same house. I still sleep with the kids and there is no ML, but she is hugging me goodnight again and I was able to steal a kiss.

I will continue down this road and hope for R.