Dawn, I'm glad you and your S read the book. Many people don't get it until they've read it 3,4 or even 5 times. I have found that many of his books have a lesson in them, just as the old time fairy tales and nursery rhymes.
Apparently the living room is the safe haven for your h. If he's on the floor, walk over top of him, do not ask him to move, if he has dirty dishes in there, leave them (if you can stand to do it). If he has dirty clothes piled up, don't wash them, etc. He needs to learn what life is about and you can't do these things for him because he needs to grow up, get up off the floor and continue living. He's got to be the one to do this.
BTW, your h did hear what your S told him. He'll never admit to thinking about the conversation after the fact, but you can be sure of one thing, it's been played over and over in his head since the conversation.
Hang in there. It will get worse before it gets better. However, you and your S now have a better understanding of his "mantra".
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
