Great, that is a positive change. My H has started working out more and I do notice it. He was always about 20 lbs overweight with a gut and never took great care of himself. Of course, once when he did one of those early morning bootcamps, I wasn't exactly rah rah cheerleader about it, and I should have been, I guess.

I will say, men who don't take care of themselves are not attractive. My H has a few minor health problems that could escalate if he doesn't watch it. I'm done mothering him so it's all on him now, but I even went so far as to book him a doctor's appt recently for his foot that was bothering him. Your W probably wants you to take some responsibility for your own health... I think you nailed that one FM. Just don't make declarations and then not follow through... my H declared one time that he was going to do a triathlon and then completely flaked out... most recently (as I said on my thread), he said he's giving up dessert but managed to eat most of a cheesecake over the span of a few days. Stick to it, very important!!


Me54, H53
M 23, T 25
S20, S18
BD: April 2024
Moved out: August 2024

Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.

"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page