Probably one trying to talk to her at all while she was in the house. Two, the text about the hospital.
You need to think in DB terms. That's why it's so important to memorize Sandi's DB tips, or at least review them daily until you understand the concept of each one. Because then as you face a situation and are trying to determine how to respond, one of the tips will pop into your head and help you determine the best course of action.
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I went up to see if she's was going to be in the bathroom.
4. Do not follow your spouse around the house like a puppy dog trying to get his/her time and attention.
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She says "I have my period and I'm a bitch. I'm in pain and might be going to the hospital. It's my first day off from both jobs and I'm trying not to fight with you or give you any attitude". I say "I'm not giving attitude, I asked a question and said have a good day".
1.Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore! This turns the spouse completely off!
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Then I text "Sorry to hear you might go to the hospital. I hope you're alright."
2. No frequent phone calls to spouse.......let him/her be the one to call you. Then don't try to hang on to your spouse through conversation.....instead, you say good-bye first.
The tips were written before texting became so popular, but the above applies to texting and email as well as phone calls.
The bottom line is you've got to break your pattern of "more of the same" behavior. To do that you need to read and live Sandi's DB tips. You don't even have to read DR if you can spend serious time reading, understanding and memorizing the tips. It's a sticky right at the top of the forum.
