When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[25yearsmlc]

Good evening,
So I did send an email to W, asking if I could join S next doctor appointment, and what medication he was receiving for his eczema and digestive issues, and what settled hom down best if he had a tantrum.


Bruce, to tell you the truth, I'm surprised you have not had several conversations about these matters before.

IF this is the first time you've even asked a question about any of it, then I can see why she would not respond quickly. She may be startled that you never listened to her tell you about these issues before, AND OR that you never showed interest til now, when the court proceedings are happening.


- No response.

I understand, if her L gave her a copy of my sworn deposition, then she must be very sore at me.
Her not speaking to me was to be expected.

I'm not sure if any of that^^ mattered as much as your recent questions & what they reveal about your knowledge or concern for your son.

But who knows? Maybe she's following her lawyer's advice, or maybe she doesn't think your questions warranted a reply.

She's asking 100% custody, I'm not agreeing, and that's why there's this proceedings. Of course she is mad.

Bruce, surely you can see some other reasons for her being upset with you in addition to the legal proceeding. Right??

It'll pass, and according to plan, I'll focus on S more than on her life, her interests, what not...

hurry up with "the plan" b/c it's long overdue. And stick with it no matter what SHE Does.



Now, on the question of how to be a good dad, for the moment it is very limited: play with him, take him to the supermarket with me, maybe change a diaper, talk to him, read him books, take him to places, be interested in his health issues, what he's learning, etc...

I want to point out something though :
--> I've been doing that for 6 months already, and it hasn't softened W's heart .
Minus my not pursuing her, what makes you think this time it'll change anything?

I can't promise that it will soften her heart. My belief is that it would -- UNLESS she thinks it's not motivated by genuine concern for HIM...and I suspect that's what she thinks or fears.

And you are giving her reason to fear that.

Enough for today, I'm trying to detach.
A la prochaine,
B.