Let me put it to you this way. When all this first happened for me, my W said she was unhappy and I had to leave. She quoted the same reasons as yours. I looked at her incredulously and said if she was the one unhappy why should I leave. So she left and I'm glad I did it. The world didn't end, there's no animosity, etc. You have to show her that it's HER decision to make these changes NOT yours.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
