And my post was not a rant against you, just as I said, food for thought. If we don't look at our automatic behaviors, and figure out why we do what we do, we can't change.
The key is to be mindful, thoughtful, not reactive but rather responsive
Now you've revealed there have been other dynamics, she was physically abusive. That's tough to take but sometimes there are deep issues with our Ss that they are unwilling or unable to fix.
So we're back to working on the only person we can change, ourselves.
I trust your line of questioning bug, I feel like you are here for our best interest and personal growth. I am reading and trying to digest your input and apply them constructively. Believe me it helps to have someone who encourages me to look deeper at myself. I was crying while I wrote that response, because looking that deep at me hurts at times.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
