You have not been wasting your time. You are a better person now than probably ever. It's hard to see this when we all want our M's to work so bad but don't forget that you can only control you and you have improved through this process.
Thanks buddy. I totally agree with you on this and haven't lost sight of it. I actually stopped at one point yesterday and told my W, "I like me now." In that perspective, whether our M works or not, my W has given me a gift. I don't know if I'd have been different otherwise.
My point about wasting my time is really addressing all the time I've spent directly with W over the last year or two. I've been on this balancing point for a while now and while I've thought we were really R, she thought we were just getting along. (Hell, if that's the case, I want to "get along" with everyone! lol)
I did have my DB coach call tonight and as usual, very uplifting. I can't say enough about the good folks that do this...they are awesome. Basically we decided to keep doing what I'm doing with some pullback, doing more GAL. Since I have 5-6 weeks before the new court date, we'll see how that goes and hope for a dismiss next time. If I don't get it, I'll completely pull back and start focusing on me 100%.
