House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[labug]

I know we all come here to vent but at some point you have to face that anger and let it go. I'm not saying ignore your anger or suppress it but acknowledge it and deal with it. Anger is a primitive response to a threat, it gives us the needed energy to fight a saber-toothed tiger. But we don't have to do that too often in modern society.

What emotion is underlying your anger? Is it fear?

If so, think about those fears, how scary are they really? Is it a saber-toothed tiger? Often we hold onto the anger because we don't want to face our fears and we don't dig any deeper. Having your family break-up is a great loss but you will still be alive, you Ds will still be alive, you'll have a roof over your heads, food on your table, etc.

Being angry all the time means you are never really in control of yourself. Not a good place to be in this situation.

And resentments build.

I think the answer is here: Stop the judgments, treat her as you would want to be treated, figure out your boundaries, set them and move forward with your life. Be the man only a fool would leave.

And you're not dumb.