hrm, Dig deeper for patience and definitely give him plenty of space to work on his issues. Your h is still in a very fragile state and he's going to be that way for quite a while. He's still very skittish, much like a scared baby kitten. So, drop the kibbles of friendship and allow him to gobble them up at his own pace.
How to act around others...just be yourself. I wouldn't discuss his behavior w/others at this point...you don't know what they will say to him. Follow their lead when it comes to conversations about other things. Don't offer up too much info on what is going on in your own household.
I think he's working through his issues, but the beer drinking is puzzling. It could be he needs to have something in his hand to relax and/or calm him down. Maybe he thinks the alcohol will help his nerves. Then again, maybe he's just enjoying his beer at home instead of in a some crappy dive.
Your comment about him moving his stuff back into your bedroom remind me of a movie I watched recently called "Hope Springs". It's a good movie and one that you might enjoy.
Hrm, when he's ready to talk, he will, but until then, sit quietly and be patient. Please keep in mind he may not talk about everything and you will have to accept that for now, but some day, all will be revealed to you, but it will be on his timeline and God's.
You've done a fabulous job in handling your situation, but I do have one question...where is the toothbrush these days? LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
