Soul.Searching~ As far as OW, I think a lot of it was what my counselor said, fantasy relationship. To my knowledge never met by his family, but talked about to, this could have been to make himself look good and like he was making the right decision, IDK, I'm sure there have been plenty of lies flying around. I would say definite EA, but H doesn't even know what that means.
AJ~ You are so right, I'm already having to remind myself baby steps! lol
snodderly~ First of all I want to take a moment to thank you so much for all of your support and encouragement, I appreciate it more than you know! I have had to have many patience reminders, and keep looking at all of the little positives instead of saying, "well I want x, y and z now."
Right now for me the big question is, do I just act normal with everyone.... I mean I haven't seen some people in at least 15 months, so what just pick up where we left off??? I have no idea what H has said about me, but I'm sure he's made stuff up, would have had to.... no one (in their right mind anyway) would be ok with someone telling the truth, like, "My wife is amazing, and does all of this great stuff but I just don't feel that way anymore so I'm leaving."
I'm going to a match this weekend with H and a buddy of his(we have always had a good relationship), I just wonder what the heck he's said, what is he going to say to me, and do I pretend like he's not had/having a MLC??? I mean he won't admit that's what's going on so I don't want to say anything that would upset him about it. Even if I just decided to act normal, if someone asks me something I'm not sure how to respond.
Also, because I'm being all paranoid now, I hope he is still working through his issues and not getting stuck or anything, I don't want this to happen again. I mean he's been pretty good with me, like the stuff I mentioned in the earlier post, and he's even given me a couple of phone calls to see if I wanted something for dinner or to let me know when he was on his way home from a match far away so I knew when to start dinner.
He has been drinking a beer or two every evening for the last week, IDK why, I'm trying not to go all LBS psychic abilities about it though LOL. Like I think gee I hope he doesn't have to drink to enjoy spending time with me! I know that's not true, but you know crazy thoughts run wild sometimes. I do continue to give him space, but he is spending more time with me by his choice, I guess I'm just afraid of the unknown.
I'm just trying to enjoy this time for what it is, and being hopeful. Hopefully someday he will move back into OUR bedroom, put all of his stuff where it goes in the house and not in his MLC room, tell me he loves me, etc......
There have been 2 or 3 times he called me by a pet name/nickname he used to call me a lot, he hasn't done that since this whole thing started.
I know, I know, I just need to take a deep breath, be patient, and be still. Clearly he has been working through his issues this whole time, he apparently doesn't want/like to talk about it.
I do continue to give him space, but he is spending more time with me by his choice, I guess I'm just afraid of the unknown. 
