"Mr.Bond, I understand BUT if I go this route, don't you think it will start an ugly D?"
No. The problem is that she is twisting things around saying that it's because of YOU that things will be ugly. Stop agreeing to that rubbish. SHE is the one who makes it ugly. Be sure you know your rights and follow them.
"She will feel threatened by me telling her to talk to my L."
So? That's up to her. She's talking to you like that because she knows she can bully you. How did you teach your kids to deal with a bully? Meet them head on.
"My fear is that it could start an ugly D battle and that is not what I want."
Puh-lease. Again, it is your W who is going to make it ugly. Don't let YOUR FEAR take over. Be the man you need to be to take care of your needs and your kids.
"If I must D, I want to do it through Mediation."
That's up to you. But your W will have no respect for you after this. She will continue to do things and propose what is only her best interest. Is that what you want? You want to be lead around by your W whom you aren't even going to have?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
