4) She seems to have an odd outlook on how our Div./Sep. will look. She has expressed to friends that she will continue to come to our business to socialize with customers/friends. Keep in mind that I live and work on this property. Why she thinks that would be something I would be OK with baffles me. I even had the conversation with her that I will not be okay with her coming here to visit friends or enjoy the pool . This is essentially my home and backyard. She has implied the same for socializing within our social circle. She has said on a few occasions we could all go out together, that she was okay with that. Again, that seems very strange to me.
My W seemed to think we'll stay close friends after all this and continue to do things together with kids. I told her that I hoped that was the case but no way to tell the future and if I'm honest with her I didn't think it would be like that. I told her friendly co-parents that talk/ text once a week is probably more realistic. She seemed shocked. Haven't discussed, or thought about it, since. I wouldn't worry about it now if I were you, no way to know what the future will look like. Only reason I said anything was because she had said it on several occasions and I wanted to get her level set a little on what D looks like because her and my interpretations of it were very different.
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5) She is reconnecting with people very quickly that she tossed aside during our breakup, people that she said she was DONE with. She has also reconnected with people that she had issues with in the past. Now, some of those same friends, are her "BFF's". She has been very quick to forgive everyone and everything, lately....with the exception of me...haha
My W did exact same things. 2 people that she just disliked 2 months before filing because they were gossips that annoyed her are 2 of her BF's now. She also reconnected with her parents and older sister who she hadn't spoken to in over 4 years (literally). All her "real" friends that have been with her through the years she barely even speaks to anymore. My take on this, and I could be completely wrong because God knows what's going on in her head, is her real friends know the truth and have seen us and they don't agree with her on the D. These other people who she hasn't talked with are siding with her because she can tell them whatever she wants. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad she's reconnected with her family but find it odd that they didn't resolve anything or discuss how they let 4 years pass.
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I feel that she will not look back for even a second. I guess in the big scheme of things, it would not change what I am doing, improving myself and trying to establish a workable co-parenting arrangement.
You can't worry about if she'll look back or even know how she's feeling in the big scheme. You are exactly right that it won't change what you're doing so keep doing it.
I also like how you've minimized communication. Gives her (and you) time to sort things out. Keep up the good work!
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