Wow, that's quite a story. Well if you remove the swingers and polyamory stuff from the equation, it sounds like you're in the same basic position that a lot of us here are in and I would assume the same DB'ing approach would apply to your sitch as well. And that would be to lovingly detach from your W, work on yourself, GAL (get a life) and give her time and space to think things through. Pick up and read DR if you haven't yet, and read Sandi's DB tips thread at the top of the forum for some helpful pointers on what to do and not do. Good luck!
