I am thinking I will $10 coffee gift/Birthday card her. I might add something in the card along these lines, "Happy Birthday! I hope this year brings you all the happiness you can wish for, signed ME". and leave it at that.
I have a couple bullet points that I have been thinking about and I would like some input. First, let me say that people around me are starting to notice my 180's without me mentioning anything to them. I am not sure if I am ACTUALLY changing, or if is a reactionary response that will fade over time. I hope it's not the latter.
The things I am wondering about seem to be somewhat specific to my sitch. I have read through tons and tons of WAW spouse stories and don't notice a lot that are similar to mine in a few aspects.
1) W has not once showed any confusion or reckless emotions about her decision to leave. She is very calculated and seems focused on what she ultimately wants. Although, she has made no effort that I am aware of to actually carry through with a separation or divorce. As far as I know, she hasn't even consulted an attorney, even though she knows I have already.
2) She has not really reached out in ANY way to connect with me, physically or emotionally that I am aware of. All communication has been initiated by me (no longer doing this) or in regards to Daughter or separation issues.
3) She does contact me daily, often several times a day. She is by no means not communicating with me. When she does call she is upbeat and never plays games. Just right to the issues, even though she is sharing more about her day to day with me in almost every conversation
4) She seems to have an odd outlook on how our Div./Sep. will look. She has expressed to friends that she will continue to come to our business to socialize with customers/friends. Keep in mind that I live and work on this property. Why she thinks that would be something I would be OK with baffles me. I even had the conversation with her that I will not be okay with her coming here to visit friends or enjoy the pool . This is essentially my home and backyard. She has implied the same for socializing within our social circle. She has said on a few occasions we could all go out together, that she was okay with that. Again, that seems very strange to me.
5) She is reconnecting with people very quickly that she tossed aside during our breakup, people that she said she was DONE with. She has also reconnected with people that she had issues with in the past. Now, some of those same friends, are her "BFF's". She has been very quick to forgive everyone and everything, lately....with the exception of me...haha
These are just a few things that I am not sure how to interpret. More and more, I feel that she will not look back for even a second. I guess in the big scheme of things, it would not change what I am doing, improving myself and trying to establish a workable co-parenting arragement.
