Ok...so I just decided I'm done..I can't do this anymore. I've tried for so long. H didn't want to come home again this weekend. Kids are so angry at him. He continuously blames me. Told me that I was an awful wife etc and I live in fantasyland. Still won't say where he goes at night. How long do I continue to try and make things work for someone that clearly has one foot out the door. How long do most people hang in there for? My H been cheating for over a year and I've been living in pure hell since August. Funny thing is I told him I was done and then he comes home and lays on me on the couch and starts rubbing my leg and being affectionate. I'm like, really?? Now? You haven't touched me for months. I don't know what his motives were but I'm staying as dark as I can at this point for my own mental health. Then he says he running to the store to return some shoes he bought. Next thing I know he didn't come home til middle of the night. He swears nothing going on but how do you trust someone that just had an affair for over a year and has done nothing but hurt you and tell you how awful you are. How long do most people stick it out for? How do I change my situation. I feel like he will never appreciate me or realize what he had until he really loses it.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14