Wow CV, I needed this too. This is our stuff in our M as well. I must admit both my W and I have been guilty of this. Contempt, sarcasm, nasty comments. We never really had blow ups in our M until after S. even that has been counted on one hand since May. Our first MC described that destructive contempt, sarcasm and passive aggressive behaviour to be worse than all out debate or argument.
One other quick point RLA, A month ago my W happened to drive the kids past a house for sale in the neighbourhood on their way home and asked if they liked it and would consider moving to something like that and should she look at it. The kids were quite upset and told me afterwards. My my d14 said that her sister told her mom off and that she just said she did not like it. I never said anything to W and kept my mouth shut but was ticked off. The kids are hurting too and did not like what their mother did...they get it. My W I am sure is just trying to get them involved with the imminent changes but it did hurt them. Just an FYI.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
