My kids from first marriage are 14 and 12. They live with my ex-wife and I see them every other weekend. My first marriage ended due to infidelity by my wife. At the time, I wanted to save it even after discovered the affair that lasted months. I am a pacifist actually, and my outburst that pushed my current wife out the door has never occurred before. It was startling to her I am sure knowing the type of person that I am. I am a very patient person, but seeing my wife detach emotionally the last 2 months or so, and my own need for connecting with her caused my stress level to reach a boiling point. I am not currently attending any counseling, but it is something I have looked at doing. My wife agreed to try counseling before my outburst, but at this point I am not really sure if she wants to pursue that. I have been reading Divorce Busting/Divorce Remedy. I have completely changed my eating habits, am working out daily, I am getting out and socializing with my family as much as possible, and have been reading books on communication in marriage. I have been giving my wife the time and space that she asked for before I threw my tantrum, and only reply to her texts/emails. I am being considerate of her emotions, making sure to focus on what she says to me in her texts, and not hinting or mentioning anything about our marriage. I am staying as upbeat as possible, and trying to focus on my own independence at this time. I have typically been a needy husband, and relied on her to take care of things. I have definitely learned to fend for myself in the last 3 weeks.
