I had a long conversation with SIL yesterday. Her sister has totally shut her out of her new life and she cant understand why. As much as I have learned I tried to explain to her that her sister cant cope with anyone who doesnt agree with her choises. That even though she lover SIL she cant let anyone stand in her way and that she doesnt want to think about anything else then her new happy life.
If I understand it correctly ( and thats a big if) SIL would be the first person that ex turns to when she slowly starts to get it. SIL was so sad. I told her that a person who goes along with the madness really doesnt help her. That she didnt have to say something to ex just to wait.
Kind of like the advice I have gotten.
This has such an impact on so many lifes its frightening.
At least I have a friend in SIL. Sad thing is that ex has a friend in both of us. She doesnt get that. Hopefully that will change.
