Discussed the D and the M yesterday for a couple of hours. I am not too happy with myself as I did not DB as good as I should. I let my emotions take control a few times and it impeded the productivity of it.
Highlights:
1) W feels "wronged" for parts of our M 2) W cannot or will not let go of her hurt/anger 3) W indicated we are in two different places as she does not feel the same as me 4) W's behavior is her attempt to get along, not R 5) W doesn't really want to have sex with me, she just does because she thinks that what a W should do
I only really believe part of this. I do believe she's not forgiving me because she's afraid...and I said as much. But the stuff about being "miserable" and not wanting to have sex, that is so far from what I see and feel I have a hard time believing it.
At the end of it, I basically told her she had two choices, extend the court date 6+ months or dismiss it, at least until the house sells, or move out and start working on finalizing D. I know this was not DB, but I'm just tired, and everything she said to me yesterday made me feel like I've been wasting my time.
On the bright side, she did agree to dismiss it and re-file later. On the other side, her attorney asked for an extension of 30 days before I got a vote. The whole court room is run half assed and if you're not represented, you don't really get heard. I'll do better next month
Have an appt later today with a DB coach so I'll post another status when I decide how I'm moving forward.
