As a FWS (former Wayward Spouse), I need to rebuild trust and show him that I am the person he loved. I really don't think the DB-ing techniques are for my situation. I was the one who screwed up initially and I need to make amends for that. I have made the decision to stand for my relationship as painful as this is going to be. I will continue to work on myself and take care of our D to make sure she is happy and content and safe.
I need to be pro-active, transparent and attentive, and some DB-ing techniques go against this. I have to figure out what is best for my situation. I am seeking a pro-marriage counsellor who can help me through this process of not only trying to save my marriage but to also help me rebuild myself.
