I have been doing the 180 all week and now made a mistake. I backslid and back to stage one again. This is exhausting. He is still telling me to be out by March 1st or it will turn very ugly. Now telling me that we can work things out if I do a checklist of things...however, the checklist includes things that wouldnt make me happy. But I want to save the marriage. So confused.
It's ok...backsliding happens. Just get back to what you were doing that worked!
My advice to you is this. If he is asking you to do things that will not make you happy, then you just can not do them. If you are unhappy in a marriage, then it's still a marriage destined to fail! Work on the things that you can do, and talk to him about the others. Create some boundaries and stick to them!
