The ups and downs of DBing

[Wendylon]

Thank you very much, FY, for your encouragement and feedback.

Things have been pretty smooth. I'm doing more than my 'fair' share with S13 and the house at the moment but I'm getting lots of pleasure from it. I figure I'd be getting zero help from H if we were S, so I'm being more independent and autonomous. Instead of asking H to do his share, I'm just doing what I feel like doing.

My 180s are quite satisfying to me and get H's attention at the same time. For example, I set up our new printers with all the house's laptops and put them on the network. H said something to the effect of him being out of a job with a smile. Even though he's traditionally the IT person, I realise he doesn't like to be asked to do things. I like feeling that I could cope without him.

I've also been selling our old ink cartridges on Amazon. I've recouped ££ which could have been wasted. Again, I've enjoyed that. Also, I'm pretty focused on my 2013 goal of going paperless. It's keeping me busy and a bit detached from H.

Last night, H showed me that he still has the business card from the diner where he proposed to me 19+ years ago. His words were: "See, despite everything..."
He also asked if I'd noticed that he's had no alcohol since Jan 3. Knowing him, I don't expect that to last very long but it is nice for now.