This is something I've had to work on and still struggle with.
On the day of the GC trip, I wanted to leave earlier, it's a 6-7 hr drive, easy, but the weather is a factor and I like to be settled by dark. My son had gone out the night before to a friend's house so didn't get up early and then had to pack etc before leaving. On the way home I was dropping him at the airport for a trip to Canada.
So while waiting for him to get ready, I at different times felt that panic rising. Old me would have ranted or gotten angry and silent making everyone unhappy. I had to talk myself through what I was feeling and why and just let him know without the freak-out factor that I wanted to leave by a certain time.
As it turned out many people might say, "see, you were right, you should have left earlier." Maybe, but then we would have had a completely different time. We were never really in any danger, we could have been had we acted stupidly. We always had options so instead of a trip we had a bit of an adventure and now it will be one of those treasured memories in years to come.
We do need to live the life we're given not the life we wish we had.
Me too. It is the control rearing its ugly head. My son is constantly in danger of missing bus in morning. Only missed it twice, but can walk up street to get it. I still say c'mon hurry up, but don't get angry. I have explained to him that it freaks me out (especially if I had to drive, almost an hour round trip, if he missed bus). So now I remind him that if I say hurry up, it is because it is one of the things that freaks me out, not because I am angry lol
