WAW Trial Separated Living together

[littleGTO]

Hi, Paulie boy,
I think you said it yourself in your line "I just need to be ready to make that deceision and know that it is the right thing to do."

#1 You need to be ready. Give yourself time.
#2 You need to know whatever decisions you are going to make are the right thing for YOU. So, don't make a quick decision & regret it later.

I agree that you need to be ready to follow through if you give an ultimatum.

Many of us here have H/Ws in EA/PAs and we are choosing to try to save our Ms. In DBing you are ultimately trying to save yourself first to give your M the best chance in the end.

Read the books-DB/DR. They will be your guides. COme here often. Read lots and lots of posts. I guarentee you will find many that speak to you. There are some pretty "cookbook" lines that our cheating S's will say in order to justify what they are doing. They invent new things as they go. More lies, but sadly may before their realities.

The truth is none of us here knows where our paths will end--w or w/o our S. But, you will get the support you need and you will offer your M the best possible opportunity to survive this crisis.

Patience, patience, and more patience.

180's, GAL, goals, and detaching--all big words and practices to incorporate in your journey.

You are lucky (as am I) to have found this place--for no other people will understand where you are as the great people here!