Well I took a chance yesterday and sent W a text ..
" Hi hope your day is as bright as your smile is. I'm just sharing here. I do still love you very much XXXXX.... Hope all is well with you. I have been a little sick for a few days now."
she replied
" i've been better. but ty. Feel Better."
I'm glad to hear she replied, but be careful with the I love you's and kisses for a while, that could scare her away. You're just trying to be friends for now, not get her to recommit to you.
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I guess the very first goal i have is to just try to be able to talk to my W with out the fear i place on it. I want to just talk on the phone maybe coffee or dinner.
This is a reasonable goal, I'd say.
Do you know her work hours? When she would be available to meet up?
One technique my first coach taught me works like this: You tell her you are going to XXXX place at XXXX time, and ask if she wants to join you. If she says no thanks, that's ok, you go anyway. This way she feels no obligation because you were already going on your own. Try again next week.
Don't say you want to talk about the relationship, just keep it light and friendly. Same thing if she actually meets up with you. No Pressure!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
