Walking the path to my own happiness

[FloydMan]

Good list GH31. Definitely all of these at play with betrayed spouses male or female. The pain is physical, emotional and psychological.
I had nightmares. They were very bad, graphic nightmares for 6 months. I was never prone to them, not even as a kid. There were graphic images of my W killing me with knives, sitting on me and slashing me. There were dreams of the OM and W plotting to kill me etc. This went on for 6 months. I would wake up sweating and terrified. W would calm me down. They subsided about a year ago. The psychologist told me this is very, very normal and will fade and disappear. They did finally. Lack of sleep, stress and fear takes its toll. I had to deal with the post-traumatic stress problem on my own therapy. It was intense. Still deal with the concentration like GH31 says and I have trouble enjoying the things I used to love…movies, baseball, hockey etc. My coaching skills were hampered. All things slowly coming back and they do say 2-3 years. It has been 19 months or so since revealed. The betrayal is so damaging, worse than the sex part of it.