Even though it's not supposed to be about getting your wife back, but about being a great father, the fact is that both goals work together well.
I'm sure It would be more important to your wife to hear you ask genuine meaningful questions about your son's welfare, than whether you make eye contact w/her or ask her about HER schooling, or HER goals, etc.
She won't want to reconcile with a man who's not going to help her raise her son.
And if you're interested in reconciling only to AGAIN hand over all the child care issues to HER, then she's not going to benefit at all from a reconciliation. That type of "family dynamic" is what she left behind.
So ask her all the questions that you need to ask, and LISTEN to those answers. If she has to repeat herself about your son's welfare, that won't play well.
But if you need to ask now, even though you have already, do so.
This time really take it in and take notes if you have to. LEARN about your son.
I was never bored and I've had 3 kids. It gets wearing, for sure. I needed a break, yes indeed. But I think the kids are fascinating. I loved "re-learning/re-discovering" things with them, like what bugs are under a rock, finding the most beautiful leaves in the autumn, and seeing how pretty a flower smells, and this is just what we'd see on a walk in our neighborhood...on Valentine's day you can outline his hand on a piece of strong paper and help HIM "sign" his name. It's not expensive but she'll treasure it if she thinks HE helped make it...
and at some level she'll be grateful to you for helping HIM give her something.
You can take him with you on errands if you aren't unreasonable w/those errands. For instance, it's NOT reasonable to expect a 2 y/o to sit still in a grocery cart for an hour while you shop for food.
It CAN BE reasonable to have him "ride" in the basket, and help choose a few healthy items to eat (avoid the snack aisle but let him pick the fruits, or decide which tomato looks best, for instance). The reasonableness of this depends on whether he's had a nap, is cranky, etc.
But that trip to the store could last 15 min. You complain that you don't have much time with him b/c of the 2 hour limit and the commute, but then you also complain that you don't know how to fill that time...well, which is it? AND
how's it going to work if you have him all day AND then overnight?
Think about this. What if the judge gives you what you say you want??
You don't sound ready Bruce. You need to get ready asap.
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