WAW Trial Separated Living together

[GH31]

Paulie Boy,

My wife conceeded our marriage in October after what she says was 2 years of "stuff" that just chipped away at our relationship.

I'm very sorry to hear this.

I never thought that things were in that state & didn't really think she meant what she was saying to me until she just pulled away physically and emotionally.

None of us did.

I didn't and the results were catastrophic.

Breathe.

She is having an affair (emotional) and has been since October. SO basically 2 months now it's been the 2 of them doing things together after work (they do work at the same company).

If this affair isn't physical already I will eat my soiled underpants.

There have been lies etc. & I finally caught her with proof in early December.

Rule Number One: All Cheaters Lie.

You can tell they're lying if their mouths are moving.

Everything you ever thought was true about your wife is no longer true, nor will it be true again until/unless this affair ends. 95% of them do end.

You must accept that for the time being an alien has abducted your wife and taken over her body. She will not be in any fit state to be your wife for now.

Back way off, do not pursue, and postpone any major decisions for at least three months.

I have been there brother.

Your emotions will be all over the place now.

Take a deep breath, expect this all to take a very long time and do your venting here.

You are just starting out and have much to learn.

I feel she is draggin her feet because she is probably in this fantasy world and i am a safe backup.

Yep.

Well, I just don't see how we can resolve what we have been through, all the lies and deception it's crazy. just not possible to mend.

You can.

But not now and not soon.

Do I make the move and just tell her this is what we are going to do and when? I just need to be ready to make that deceision and know that it is the right thing to do. Thoughts??

Do not make any decisions just yet.

You have hurt your wife deeply and in ways which are difficult to fathom.

But you will learn in time if you stick around here.

GH31