Your post sound eerily familiar. Your h words sound like my h words. They make some sense and have some validatity so you buy the whole bag.
Some of what your h is saying may be true but some of what he is saying is not. He really needs to defend his position that in order to be happy he needs to leave you and the kids so he will rewrite history.
You need to keep your side of the street clean. You need to be the best AM you can be right now. By some a new outfit get your hair done. Look good and feel good. Sign up for some lessons. Take care of yourself.
There is hope
Check out the Laura Munson book this isn't the season you think it is
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