TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[theUF]

Good luck UF - I'm sure whatever interaction you have - you'll do just fine!

Well thank you!

It did go quite fine.
She didn't bring up me helping her again, but she did bring up the issue of this electrical appliance using a lot more electricity than others would, lol!

That's one of her typical traits were we would collide a bit. She knows what she wants and if she didn't get it/buy it/find it herself, than often it is not good enough for various reasons, OR so I felt.

She also asked me to throw away some paper she had. I told her there is a garbage disposal on the parking lot, use that one when you leave. (Instead of using the in-house bin). She rolled her eyes a bit and put it in her pocket. That's one of MY typical traits were we would collide. I can at times be way too picky on cleanliness.



Interesting thing though. A weekish ago I planned to ask her to go swimming with me and S. When I say ask I mean "you're welcome to tag along if you want". But I didn't.
Today she told me "next week I'm going swimming with S, would you like to join us?". I accepted.

Not saying it means anything, just funny she asked the exact same thing. We have, however, already decided to go on a weekly organized swim with S(if/when we get enrolled).

When they were leaving, S ran and got my shoes and tried to put them on my feet several times. "mommy daddy boy".
Seeing his facial expression when driving away was not fun at all.
I just felt so angry about the whole situation, but I know deep down it's not justified. It's not all on her.
I let her detach from me, I spent too much time away from them and the changes I did was too few too late. The progress I'm making with myself now, doesn't automatically make up for that. I wish I saw it sooner, but I didn't.

But hey, I'm not gonna wallow in self-pity or regret. I'll save that energy for GAL and personal growth! Or so I hope!