Just read your post Advina...and I agree for the most part...maybe that is me not wanting to throw the towel in. I wish we could talk more then on here, you sound so wise or maybe it is just life experiences. Perhaps there is a way we can do that. I know I want a better life, better marriage, just extrememly hard to think that my life is not what I thought. I was doing so good, earlier in the summer, then all everything went to hell, and I regressed big time. Now I am at where I am at. Feel stuck at times. But as in my earlier post...I do know I need to get my life back in order, making plans for the future with or without H, startign with the house. I haven't decided yet if I am going to see a lawyer Monday, think I am scared to..that would be admitting failure..or then I think maybe that would wake him up..perhaps that is wishful thinking.