Rachael, Have your run a credit report lately? You should do that so that you can see just what is up w/the credit situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
No I haven't . My sisters friend thinks I should not keep the house because of cost and upkeep but I am talkin to the lawyer. From what I heard my h say, he was giving ow advice to dump her boyfriend because my h "knows what he wants and it's her" so he is telling her he doesn't like boyfriend cuz he is is biased and h is jealous. Also said h's family will support him if he divorces and hooks up with someone. Now his mom still doesn't know bout affair but sis does and she told him don't have a relationship (meaning any romance until this is over . She doesn't know he is talkin to ow now. But she is usually straight laced. Blood is thicker than water.
Now that you are sure he's still in contact w/the ow, you need to turn your focus back on to you and what you need to do in order to get through the financial stuff w/the lawyer.
As for his mother and his family, yes, blood is thicker than water and that's why you can't always put your trust in them when the mlcer goes whacko because they'll believe whatever they tell them.
Focus on what types of questions you need to jot down for your meeting.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks for your advice snodderly. I'm glad I know of his contact with ow without a shadow of doubt. I am sad but a bit relieved because I felt like I was In a kind of emotional limbo. I haven't been me for a long time. I am a little scared of what lies ahead too.
Snodderly's right - run the credit report. It's free and you can get them from all three online. It's a good idea.
As for what lies ahead? There be dragons. And adventure and good times, believe it or not. Life is good and you'll be able to enjoy it as you come away from being in limbo. With or without H. It is a little scary, but it's very enjoyable too. Better than you imagine, I can assure you.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Yes there be dragons! But the one in my house will go to another cave. The unknown is always a little scary but this right now is a kind of nightmare. I worry about how I'll live. Can't do much on my income. So the lawyer will help. Pray I find a good one. Thanks. Here's to a better life!
Have faith in yourself and in God. You've got a good head on your shoulders and once you have the information from a lawyer, you'll be able to plan from there.
Run the credit report and be sure to print it out and keep it in in a safe place.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Got a question. I'm not saying anything to h about what I know but he is sleeping in my bed. What I want to say to him is that he talks about respecting others and all the while he is betraying me and is totally disrespecting me. He has lost the right to be in our bed. Should I say that or keep quiet til I see the lawyer?
Rachael, I would not tell him anything at this point. You do not want to tip your hand. See your lawyer first and do not share w/him anything that your lawyer tells you unless the lawyer advises you otherwise.
If you are still have sexual relations w/him, be sure to use protection and also, make an appointment to be test for STDs. You need to protect your finances, assets and your health.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
