I'm glad to see that they are going to email each other and hopefully get to a point of foregiveness and moving on. But, like you said...no expectations.
I do think that this is part of his journey and he's going back and revisiting the areas that have had a dark cloud over him. This actually might be a good thing for him.
I'm right there w/you about S inviting him and keeping it a surprise, but it sure did take the spotlight off of his fiancee.
I hope that this family gathering is a good start for your h in wanting to clean up his past and grow up. It's going to be a long road, but he may very well be starting to get in the trenches in learning more about himself.
You are doing great and I honestly don't know how you managed to remain so calm after he stated what he did. The pause before you responded said it alland it was priceless! Bravo!
Have a great day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
