H has a ton or two of guilt which is of course part of his problem. And yes, he even used the "I have to get things off my chest" expression. Although he didn't get the chance because she did all the venting at the party. But I think they now plan to email so perhaps the opportunity will eventually come.

I expressed the idea that its possible her particular personality will not allow her to see his side of things even after he's explained them. "Do what you feel you must, but have no expectations" (Wonder where I got that from???)

I think he believes, as so many of us LBSs (which is what he was to her) do, that he can explain if just given a fair chance. (In my head I snort and think "yeah, good luck with that")

And my jaw did drop with the cheat/regard comment. But it was dark so no foul there lol. I do believe there was a bit of a pause before I responded though...

I've never met H's S but do wonder at the chutzpah of pulling this surprise on his family. Apparently H's S's fiancee was grateful that H was there to take the spotlight off her because it seems she's not completely comfortable around XW2 and XW2's parents.

Regarding Jerry Springer - can't remember if I ever mentioned XW2 was on Dr Phil? SMH SMH SMH.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.