H said he see's and does question what the hell he's doing at times, and he struggles with this. I'm no expert, but I think he needs to leave because he is dipping his toe in, and feeling the quickening of this life all while having the security of home.
I'm right there with you in this same situation. My H returns to the nest to recover and brood and blame me for anything and everything then heads back out to "his element".
Originally Posted By: dawnmarie
This can go on forever,
No, it can't and it won't. If we have learned nothing else we have learned that nothing is "forever", all situations evolve and change. It does however FEEL like forever when you're going through it.
Originally Posted By: dawnmarie
There is no reason for him to give up either-or when he's being satisfied.
Ditto again for me. I have twice asked my H to leave. He refused. So I'm getting myself ready to leave. But that's going to take quite some time due to financial concerns.
Keep breathing Dawn. This thing has ebbs and flows, it cycles through. Don't feel you have to make any decisions while in the heat of battle or the grip of pain or anger.
Do take care of yourself everyday.
Wishing you the best.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
