When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[Big Bruce]

Thank you all for your various inputs,
A nuance needs to be clarified: my S not responding to me made it difficult for me to be intersted in him IN THE BEGINNING .
Things have evolved now, and I find fun things to do together, and albeit short we always have a good time.

I only get to see S twice a week for two hours, that is why I am seeking the help of the Court. The lawyer of W wants to postpone the hearing to the 15th February. I suppose they must have received my answer, and need time to think. My L made a good job in opposing almost all of her points without being accusing.
The best part really is that I have emails or pictures to prove almost everything that I claim to be true. It will certainly undermine the credibility of her deposition.

Basically, I told my L that I needn't stoop down to her level, but saying the truth is always best. I had ample proof of what I say.

Despite my trying to be as neutral and fair as possible, and even though I am not supposed to try and think what W is feeling, I imagine she must be fuming at my sworn deposition which calls her a liar without saying it.

Following your advice, I am not contacting W at all, except to agree on an hour where I am supposed to pick S up.
Really short emails, no greetings or compliments, or good-byes. <-- She must have seen the 180 by now.

I am not supposed to touch a piping hot stove anyway, so no point in reaching out and saying nice things to W at the moment.
Do you agree with this?
(at least not until the proceedings are over).

My L himself told me that when a third party (the judge) rectifies a situation, and you're proved wrong, the unreasonnable spouse usually becomes more reasonnable.

I know I'm in for a long process, the step 1 being trying to be the best dad possible.
step 2. Keep exchanging with my W on things about S. Let the rage cool off.
step 3. Build on the "camaraderie" feeling, the thing in common that we share : namely our taking care of young Bruce.
step 4. Let her realize whatever she needs to work out in her life, see that grass isn't greener or that she isn't happier, and let her initiate the emotionnal connection. How many months until this stage?

That's the plan for the moment. Any improvements to it? All suggestions welcome.
Merci,
B.