Andrew, yes, our S's are alike--and so are we. We're the fixers, the ones who take care of things and care for people. They're the free spirits, the fun ones, the ones who want someone else to do the work :-( We'll see if she files. It'll take her a long time to actually do this---my guess.
Yes, you do deserve much better. But I completely understand why you don't want a D. I don't want it either, and my H has behaved like a total jerk. That's what love does...
