Yes, I understand that it is often the case where one spouse is not interested in the M but go top Retrouvaille and it is pretty successful. However, I think Retrouvaille insists there are no 3rd parties involved (no current A going on). They may even call to confirm this is the case.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.