Grey, it's not pleasant. But it truly is a gift to see it this way. There is no wondering if she's off her rocker or not. I assure you, that's easier than what I went through, although no less painful I'm sure.
If it helps, mine did similar. She started with wanting to run away (fear - f*ck everything and run, right?), which progressed exactly like you describe - rewriting history, anger and spew toward me, always and never statements. She even tried to kick me out of my house. Went so far as to offer ex-sex if I would divorce her and leave. A lot of crazy. Still tries to maintain much of it and progressed to "diagnosing" me as bipolar and narcissistic without a shred of decency. She doesn't even remember much of that now from what I can tell. Has a Swiss-cheese memory of a lot of things. I don't talk to her if I can help it. Too much crazy for me
Hang in there and be good to yourself. It's not about you. It really isn't. As such, there isn't much you can do, and I promise that arguing with a fool is a waste of your time. It will get you nowhere. She has to figure it out for herself and there is no way around that.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
