Now that you are sure he's still in contact w/the ow, you need to turn your focus back on to you and what you need to do in order to get through the financial stuff w/the lawyer.
As for his mother and his family, yes, blood is thicker than water and that's why you can't always put your trust in them when the mlcer goes whacko because they'll believe whatever they tell them.
Focus on what types of questions you need to jot down for your meeting.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
