W had offered to come over today after her C session and help put away Christmas stuff. I of course said yes, but wondered to myself if maybe that wouldn't be the most fun time to be around her.
Sure enough she was kind of down when she got here, over the stressful week and emotionally tiring C session. Didn't feel like doing the planned chore and neither did I so we just had a short visit.
I had made a pot of my famous chili which she raved about.
Today I was really good about not pursuing, not clinging for her to stay longer. I have been working on getting refi on house this week, she very helpful on the and other few things we needed to discuss.
She is scheduled for C every Saturday. She is healing, I think. I'd help her if I could...but today I think all I can do is support her through the process and be here for her. She vented some frustrations about work, some insecurities...give me a chance to be supportive and reassuring.
I always try to, but I think I need to adjust how I do it. ie she might say "I'm not so good at xyz I'm a little worried..." and I might say "bullcrap your smart and skilled you can do that easy." which technically is an encouragement but also too abrupt and dismisses her feelings.
So much to learn.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
